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The One Piece of Parenting Advice That Deserves a Permanent Time Out

According to Big Time Adulting's Caitlin Murray

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The internet is full of parenting advice—some of it helpful and some of it, well, not so much.

But one unlikely corner of the internet that is full of seriously great, no B.S. tips? Social media's favorite no-filter parent, Caitlin Murray of @bigtimeadulting fame. A mom-of-three, Murray has gained close to 2 million followers on Instagram for her funny, no-nonsense insights into parenting (if you're not familiar, see her video about "travel sports becoming a real kick in the tit" as an example) .

So when I recently caught up with Murray about all things parenting and her partnership with Prego, I just had to ask her—what's the one piece of parenting advice that needs to go?

“Just the overthinking of all of the feelings all of the time,” she tells me. “You know, I want my kids to be open, and to want to come to me with everything that they want to talk about. But we pay, because of all of the information out there about parenting styles and parenting trends and how to raise these really well-adjusted, happy kids.” And yep, I can totally relate—parents often feel the pressure to do everything just right (lest they screw up their kids forever!) and as a result, worry, obsess and overthink things.

All that overanalyzing, she adds, pulls you out of the actual moment. “Just live your life! Just be!”

When I confess that I sometimes find myself parroting whatever parenting script I recently saw Dr. Becky or another millennial parenting guru share on the 'Gram, Murray doesn't miss a beat, saying, “Scripted parenting is just not for me.” She adds that whenever she attempts to copy the latest parenting script her kids end up confused. 'Like, where is mom? Like, what is this alien talking to me right now? Saying this random thing? That doesn't sound like her!'

Murray’s keeping it real in her partnership with Prego, too—she’s helping launch a giveaway where parents can win a family meal kit delivered to their door, plus a $100 TaskRabbit credit to lighten the load just a little.

So what's the takeaway? Sometimes the best parenting advice is to stop trying so hard to follow all the advice.

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