Royal Butler Makes Surprising Kate Middleton Confession: ‘Queen in Waiting’

And he spills the tea on the brothers’ rift

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There’s an old European proverb that says “No man is a hero to his valet.” That’s what pops into one’s head when you consider a new book by King Charles’s longtime butler. With kind-yet-revealing accounts of the Royals during the turbulent years of 2004 to 2011, butler-turned-etiquette expert Grant Harrold's book is a must-read for Brit Royal Family buffs. Ahead of its pub date, the author talks about Kate Middleton and makes predictions on the future of the Charles-William-Harry rift.

Harrold, author of The Royal Butler: My Remarkable Life of Royal Service, recently told the Mirror. that he immediately approved of Kate Middleton, who he met when she began dating Prince William. “That girl was a Queen-in-waiting in every aspect. She is the perfect Queen material and you can so obviously see that. Everything about her—the way she carried herself, the way she spoke, the way she interacted with people, her kindness, her beauty—she was, if I can say, the modern-day Princess Diana,” Harrold said.

Royal butler opinion Kate: Watching rugby with brothers
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Along with praise for Kate, Harrold has happy memories of princes William and Harry. “William and Harry were so close, as brothers go. With many siblings, you can be close as children and then maybe drift a bit as you grow up in your late teens and early 20s, but William and Harry were the opposite,” he said. “I don’t know if it's because of their mother’s death, but they were inseparable. They were hanging out together, going to pubs together, just having fun together.” Reading this, you can’t help but think back to candid shots from 2007 of Harry, William and Kate cheering on the English team during the RBS Six Nations Championship match between England and Italy.

Such happy memories of the family come in sharp contrast to the upcoming third anniversary of the last time the two brothers and their spouses were photographed together, outside Windsor Castle in September 2022 honoring the late Queen Elizabeth. “If I had been told all those years ago that they were going to fall out, I would’ve bet £100 that it would never happen," Harrold said. "Even when the rumours (of a rift) first started, I was saying publicly to the press that they would never fall out, that’s how sure I was.

“And when all the conflict really started, I was asking myself ‘Why has this all gone so badly wrong?’ I couldn‘t wrap my head around it. Now they’re not even speaking to each other, and they used to speak all the time. It’s really sad,” he said.

Royal butler opinion Kate: Charles and sons
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Despite their public estrangement, Harrold believes that a reconciliation between the princes may happen—but in private. He said: “I think families fall out and families can heal, but it’s never the same. So yes I can see a reconciliation, I can see Harry coming back.

"I don’t see Harry and Meghan ever on the Palace balcony for Trooping the Colour for example, but I can see the family patching things up behind closed doors and working towards the King seeing his grandchildren [Archie and Lilibet]. I think that's what they're trying to work towards," he said. "I think they could be thinking ‘Let's just be a family behind closed doors and move on from this rift from our point of view, not from the public’s point of view."

Royals devotees will want to pre-order this book, available September 23, to savor all the royal tea, served piping hot.


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